If this is your first time dating a lesbian, you may have felt like you were in deep water. Well, you’re not the only one. Don’t get me wrong. When the right recipe is used, two women can be like alchemy. According to John Gottman, an emeritus professor of psychology at the University of Washington, “Lesbian couples are a lot more mature, more considerate in trying to improve a relationship and have a greater awareness of equality in a relationship than straight couples.”
But unless you have a lot of luck, you probably won’t find that on your first date with a lesbian. You have to go on a fair number of bad dates. So you will enjoy them more when they are good.
27 Fun Date Ideas for Lesbian
We’re sure this list will give you many ideas, whether you’re looking for Valentine’s Day ideas or ideas for your first date with your girl.
1. A tour through a city
Even if you’ve lived in the same city all your life, walking through it with a date can be fun. Bring a good map and a disposable or Polaroid camera for more fun.
2. Have an active date outside
If you like to be active, go on a hiking date in the woods, a running date on the beach, or an (ice) skating or skiing date – whatever works best!
3. Go to a carnival or fair
Finding a place to have fun together is another very fun thing. Going to a theme park for the whole day might still be too much of a commitment, but a fair or carnival is a great place to go as long as the date is fun.
4. Visit a Museum
There are museums almost everywhere, even in small towns. Find a museum that you both like and go there together. For a twist, act like you’re a tour guide and show people around.
5. Go to a Coffee Shop
The best! Go to a cute café and get some coffee or tea. It’s the perfect low-key way to get to know each other without the pressure of a three-course dinner.
If the date goes well, you can always take a walk around the neighbourhood afterwards.
6. Eat lunch or supper
Choose a restaurant that’s a good fit for both of you, and spend the night getting to know each other over good food and drinks. If you want to try something new, go to a dine-in-the-dark restaurant or another unique place to eat.
Or, if you’re both sure it’s a good match, you could cook a meal together or go on a picnic in the park.
7. Go to the movies
You can go to a movie theatre, find a drive-in movie theatre, or even make your outdoor movie theatre with a portable device and a speaker.
You can also check to see if there are any lesbian movies playing in the area or an LGBTQ+ film festival.
8. Meet for breakfast
Who says that lesbian dates can only happen in the evening? If breakfast goes well, you can spend the whole day together. Or you can start by going to a beautiful place to watch the sunrise together, which is both fun and romantic.
9. Go to an arcade and play games
We like games, which isn’t a secret. We love all kinds of games, from board games to arcade games.
Games are perfectly fun date-material. It’s also great to find out how competitive each other is (note: games should be fun; if they aren’t, that could be a warning sign).
10. Go to an amusement park
What better place than a theme park to learn about how someone feels? You’ll see what your person looks like when they’re scared (on a roller coaster), high on sugar (from cotton candy), and probably sick at some point (thanks rollercoaster AND cotton candy!)
You’ll find out how patient they are (long lines can be frustrating). If you still like them in the end, you know your relationship will last.
11. Do some Urbexing
Urbexing is the act of going to places that are usually off-limits to the public, such as abandoned buildings. This can be very exciting, but some safety rules must follow.
12. Go Roller Skating or Ice Skating
Fun if you’re a pro, maybe even more fun if you’re not. Some couples are skating together, holding hands, but not very well. If you’re pros, go to a skate park and show each other what you can do.
13. Play Mini Golf
Another old favourite, but it has to be said! Mini-golf is a fun idea for a date for two lesbians. Even more fun: mini golf that glows in the dark!
14. Kayaking, Standup Paddle Boarding, or Canoeing
Why not go out on the water for a date? Paddle around in kayaks or paddle in a canoe as a couple. Or a different rowboat. You can also try standup paddle boarding if you are stable (SUP). Some people can even do yoga while on a SUP.
15. Take a class in dancing
Try a dance for two, like salsa or ballroom, or do something crazy and try break dancing or ballet! There are so many different ways to dance. With an online class, you can even do it from the comfort of your own home!
16. Ride a Bicycle
Take a bike ride! You can go further on a bike than when you walk, and it’s a fun way to see new places.
17. Take a swim
Going swimming is another fun thing to do. Make it a fun date. Maybe you have a pool, an indoor pool nearby, or you can go to the beach or a lake. The date will be more personal if it is in a quiet place.
Note: It’s good to find out if your date is OK with swimwear and swimming.
18. Go Laser Tagging
Also fun for a double date! You can either play together or against each other. If you’re on the same team, you can also play roles. One person can be the leader, and the other has to do what they say. Switch roles halfway through the game or when you start a new game.
19. Play Ping-Pong / Table Tennis
Did you know that buying a portable net can quickly turn any table into a ping-pong table?
Archery is a fun thing to do. And I mean, Cupid has a bow and arrow, so that must be a sign, right?!
21. Let’s Bake
You’ve seen cute indoor photos of couples playing with flour in the kitchen. Why not bake together to see how well you get along? Try making a new dish together if you want to do something a little crazier.
22. Make a collage or a vision board.
If you’ve been dating for a while, you probably have many memories or are looking forward to a life together. Why not put together a fun scrapbook or vision board about your relationship?
23. Learn one or more magic tricks and put on a magic show
Try magic because it’s fun to learn something new and surprise each other. Who knows what kind of magic it will lead to next…
24. Put together a jigsaw puzzle
This one is for couples who are patient. If you aren’t, you can get a 10-piece jigsaw puzzle. But there’s something special about sitting close to each other and focusing on the same thing.
25. Visit an Animal Shelter
You might not want to help at an animal shelter, but going there can be fun. You might fall in love and decide to get a pet, but please don’t do this until you’ve thought it over!
Petting animals could also be a date, but we don’t like (petting) zoos or using animals for entertainment.
26. Rent a room in a hotel
Yes! A new place for a romantic night (or even just a few hours) is the best place to get close. Either physically or mentally!
And if you want to use toys to make your romantic night even more intimate, Honey Play Box is a great choice. They think that pleasure should be great and fun for everyone, and we agree. Their toys are fun, and they have many to try.
27. Join a demonstration
What could be more romantic than standing up for what’s right? We can’t forget that the first Pride was a protest that turned into a riot. In terms of equality, there is still a lot to fight for.
Lesbian Dating Advice
1. Get to know what lesbian labels mean
Many lesbians use their “type” to identify and describe themselves, which is fine. But it’s important to remember that not everyone fits into stereotypes, and we shouldn’t make assumptions about someone based on their looks or status alone.
Still, it’s a good idea to learn the labels and terms for lesbians you might hear on the dating scene. At the very least, it will help you get ready for any future conversations you might have. Or it could help you figure out what kind of lesbian you want to a) be or b) date.
2. Meeting Other Lesbians
If you feel safe and comfortable enough to do so, I think you should be open about your sexuality. Because there is a chance that each person you tell might know someone who bats for the same team. You might find a date. Or, even better, you find someone to fly with you. When two women date, this is always a plus.
Just be aware that romance scams and cyberstalking are becoming more common in online dating, so make sure you know how to keep yourself safe.
Along with lesbian dating apps like Her, one of the biggest apps for LGBTQ+ women and queer people, you can also connect with like-minded people in your area through social media and other online platforms. You can search for relevant hashtags, look up lesbian events and meetups in your area, or go to the nearest cat cafe.
3. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation.
Don’t be afraid to ask someone out on a date if you find a hot person you’d like to date. I know it’s scary, especially if you don’t know if they feel the same way about you. But there has never been a lesbian in history who didn’t like someone sure of themselves.
Think about it like this. If this person has caught your eye, they probably have also caught the eye of someone else. You don’t want to lose out to another b*tch just because you didn’t have the guts to ask her.
4. Grooming and Style
Even though looks aren’t everything, I feel the most confident when I’ve taken care of myself. That mostly means that my hair looks good, I’ve shaved my bits, and I’m wearing a stylish but comfortable outfit. I feel best when I do these three things, which don’t take much work.
It shows in our energy and personality when we feel good about ourselves. We feel braver and more outgoing. We don’t worry as much about what other people think of us. And as a result, we help others feel at ease as well.
To feel confident and put yourself out there, you should do whatever YOU need to feel your best. Do things like get a spray tan, wear sexy underwear, and drink half a bottle of wine.
So, my most important tip is to keep dating your partner. Go through this list of ideas for lesbian dates and pick the ones that work for you even if you have already done them!
Yes, also the one where you go to a coffee shop. People change over time, so it’s always great to check in and get to know your person better.
Remember that keeping an open mind and being willing to try new things together is essential to having a great date.
On a date, how should you dress?
The best thing to do is to wear what makes you happy as a person. It’s OK to show some skin if you want to. If it makes you feel better to cover up, then do that. To see if you’re compatible, you should focus more on your date than on your clothes, so you shouldn’t worry about what you wear on the date.
How do you ask a girl out?
Find out if she’s with anyone.
Find out what she likes to do for fun or what she does for a living. It’s a good idea to show interest in more than one way. Eye contact, lots of smiles, and a light touch on the shoulder at the right time can let her know she has caught your attention.
How do women flirt with other women?
To flirt with a girl, smile, give her compliments, and make her feel like she’s the only one. You can show her you’re interested in asking her what she likes to do and what she thinks about different things. If you don’t know if she is straight or gay, ask her about her past relationships or who she usually finds attractive.